Do you trust your feelings? I know I didn’t use to, I second guessed myself at every turn. My life was a symphony of other people’s priorities (O.P.P.) I thought that doing for others would give me the feeling I wanted. Correction, the feelings I thought I wanted. Like many moms, I bought into the story that life would be awesome if my husband and kids were happy and supported. The reality was that I was burned out, overwhelmed, and stressed out. If you would have asked me back then how I wanted to feel I would have told you that I wanted to feel like my life had meaning. See in the middle of all of those to-do’s I had totally lost me and my passion for life.
Fast forward to 2013 when I got my hands on a book called The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte. Reading that book that shifted how I viewed my life. It left me feeling hella empowered and ready to conquer my day. Who knew that being clear about how I wanted to feel would empower me and allow me to be in more control of my day.
How to Use Feelings to Help You Focus
Let’s break down how knowing how you want to feel supports you and takes you closer to your goals. When you create your day around how you want to feel it causes you to place tasks on your schedule with purpose. Tony Robbins always says, “Success without fulfillment is failure.” If you are only checking things off to get to the finish line but when you get there it feels crappy then it’s not a win.
Creating a day based on feeling doesn’t mean that life will be filled with rainbows and unicorns daily. Creating a day based on feeling means that you always have a focal point for all you do. You even have a focal point for the unpleasant stuff (like landing pages or cleaning the bathroom).
To create your feelings baseline
- Before you create your daily schedule think about how you want to feel at the end of the day
- Add that feeling to the top of your planner and post it around your workspace
- Create a timer to remind you of that feeling
Using this system daily will set you up for more focus and enjoyment from your day. This will also keep you from adding tasks that don’t fit into your higher vision. This isn’t about avoiding the hard stuff. Creating a day based on feelings is about creating a fuller life experience.
I know you’re ready to get your business and family to stop fighting over you. I know it’s no fun to feel like you’re paying attention to one but feel like you’re neglecting the other. Mom guilt is so real, but it’s time to silence the guilt and stand in your power.
Download my Get Yo’ Life Guide and learn the five ways you can begin to build your life foundation. You can create a harmonious life where all areas support the others.
Harmony is possible.
Over to You:
Share in the comments below. Are you clear on how you want to feel each day? I’d love to hear how I can serve, support or celebrate you to your next level.
Until Next Time
Love Yourself, Love Your Family, + Love Your Business